Therapy Mythbusters Archives
“I know someone who’s had years of therapy and s/he is still nuts. Therapy obviously doesn’t work.”
Like everything else, results may differ among individuals. And like the word “crazy” I might argue with you about the term “nuts”! Do some people spend years and years in therapy? Sure. But most people spend just the right amount of time, enough to address their major concerns and change behavioral patterns. Therapy works.
“I can’t afford to get help. Therapy is for rich people.”
In reality, therapy can be helpful for all kinds of people, and many therapists–including me–have a sliding fee scale for those people who need a lower fee. When you contact a therapist, ask about their fee schedule and if they are willing to charge you based on your ability to pay. It can’t hurt to ask–and it might help! Therapy is for everyone.
“Therapy is for wimps.”
Nothing could be further from the truth! Seeking and participating in therapy takes emotional strength and bravery. To face one’s issues head-on requires a commitment of time and energy that can be daunting. Facing the reality of life and working to understand one’s role in the world is much, much harder than burying one’s head in the sand and pretending that problems will just go away on their own. Therapy is an act of courage.
“Only crazy people get therapy.”
Nope, not true. Even if I were to argue with you about what the term “crazy” really means, the fact is that many men and women seek therapy to increase their quality of life. Understanding oneself and how one relates to others is an excellent way to make changes that will positively affect you for the rest of your life. Therapy can help anyone.
“Once I begin therapy, I’ll be in it forever. Therapy takes years and years.”
Actually there is a lot of variation in how long people stay in therapy. Sometimes the process can go quickly if you’re just working on one specific issue. Sometimes it goes more slowly if you’re changing long-term patterns of behavior. Therapy can continue as long as you decide. You are in charge.